As I opened my social media this afternoon, several posts were highlighted, and I began to pray for those dealing with the various types of grief from the loss of loved ones to those grieving the recent local and national tragedies.
At one time or another we have all have dealt with some form of grief over the course of the last 21 months. When it’s experienced, grief can sometimes feel like a weighty crushing process, especially when it hits us personally and without any warning. However, even in the midst of the pain, shock and loss, the Word of God reveals we can yet find hope.
So, what is hope and what does it look like when you are in a place of grieving? Hope is defined as “a feeling of trust.” For the times we find ourselves in a place of grieving, it’s important to note who or what we place our trust in. While our family, friends and loved ones are there to comfort us in time of need, it’s good to know there is someone greater we can cry out to and place our hope. The Sovereign God is a present help. He is Jehovah Shammah, our God who is always there.
Psalm 16:9 – “Therefore my heart is glad, and my glory rejoices; my flesh also will rest in hope.”
Psalm 31:24 – “Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the Lord.”
Psalm 62:5 – “Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from Him.”
Psalm 71:5 – “For you are my hope, O Lord God; You are my trust from my youth.”
Psalm 119:147 – “I rise before the dawning of the morning, and cry for help; I hope in your word.”
Romans 5:5 – “Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured in our hearts by the Holy spirit who was given to us.”
Romans 15:13 – “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”
To help us better recognize the various types of grief, listed below are 16 types a person may possibly encounter and experience.
1. Normal Grief – The emotional distress that accompanies a trauma, such as death or other loss.
2. Complicated Grief – The type of grief that worsens over time.
3. Traumatic Grief – The grief that you feel after the sudden or unexpected loss of a loved one.
4. Chronic Grief – A grief that does not subside.
5. Anticipatory Grief – The grief you feel when you are waiting for your loved one to pass.
6. Disenfranchised Grief – Deep grief over the loss of a relationship that is outside the typical family structure or other recognized relationships.
7. Distorted Grief – May give you feelings of guilt and anger.
8. Exaggerated Grief – Start out as normal grief but grow with intensity as time passes.
9. Masked Grief – When experienced, you may not even be aware that symptoms such as anger or impulsive behavior are related to a loss.
10. Inhibited Grief – Can manifest in the form of chronic headaches, stomach pains, or even muscle and body aches.
11. Collective Grief – When grief affects a whole community, city, country, or even the world.
12. Cumulative Grief – When a current loss may dredge up feelings of a loss you have suffered in the past.
13. Prolonged Grief – When normal grief last for 12 months or longer.
14. Abbreviated Grief – A short lived but bona fide grief
15. Delayed Grief – When your grief may be postponed for a matter of weeks, months and sometimes years.
16. Absent Grief – Where you may show few or no signs of grieving.
If you are currently experiencing a loss of any kind, I pray that the peace and comfort of God to begin to fill your heart with hope. May His love cover you as you move through the grieving process.
If at any time you feel overwhelmed in your grief and find it hard to cope, please seek assistance from a counselor or mental health professional in your area. You may also call the National Grief Hotline by dialing (844) 274 – 6154 for immediate response and assistance.
Listed, are several articles & resources to also help you to process and move through grief:
2 Timothy 1:6-7 (NKJV) “Therefore I remind you to stir up the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
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Father God we come before you now and we ask that you forgive us for our sin of walking in the way of religion and not in relationship with you. We thank you for this time of correction and healing as you make our heart pliable to do your holy will. Father you are the potter and we are the clay, we are the sheep of your pasture and we repent for allowing ourselves to follow the voice of the world.
Heavenly Father, we invite you into every aspect of out lives and ask that you cut out all that’s not of you and we also ask that you align and set in order only those things which pertain to your divine will & purpose for our lives.
We rejoice in the fact that you are a God of a mercy and we thank you with hearts of gratitude for how you continue to woo us and love on us despite how we have treated you and your people. Father, today we choose to love you back and truly show not only with our lips but also with our hearts that we belong to you, spirit, soul and body. Our desire is to be your true representatives in the earth., and we earnestly wait in anticipation for the great harvest of souls to come that we may disciple them with pure motives.
Thank you, Father God for helping us to drop the bottle of immaturity, religion and indifference so we can truly walk upright as your holy and dearly beloved children. We release now our past to you and make an exchange for our glorious future walking out the rest of our days as true Disciples of Christ. Amen & Amen.
I decree and declare that the people of God will rise up and come forth as a unified army in these last days. I decree and declare that we will die to our flesh and will stand cheek to cheek and breast to breast in agape love. I decree and declare that we are fitly joined together and operating as a well oiled machine for the kingdom of God.
I decree and declare we are no longer children tossed to and fro by every wind of doctrine but we are students of your divine word and we are able to eat and digest strong meat. I decree and declare our eyes are fixed and focused on Jesus our soon and coming King, and our desire is to be pleasing and Holy to you Father God for which this is our reasonable service. I decree and declare that we will bear good fruit and will walk as your true ambassadors in the earth.
Father thank you for the Body of Christ, I accept and receive what you have made available for us. Thank you for your divine alignment and order in each of our lives. Thank you for extending your hand and showering us with your grace and mercy. Thank you for the opportunity to get back on track to be restored and transformed so we may truly represent you in all that we say and do.
Originally scribed and published December 31, 2011 in the book – “Drop that Bottle and Pick up a Fork! Poetry, Prophetic Revelation & the Word of God” (Holy Poetry Publications)
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Stories of Extraordinary Friendships; Connections A Stepping Into Victory Compilation, Volume 2
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Our lives are shaped by the women we come in contact with throughout our lives. These women can be our mothers, aunts, grandmothers, sisters, friends or co-workers. Many women are wounded by the ugly, shallow conflicts that burst forth from other women who’ve let their own insecurities rule their behavior. Unfortunately, once pain is inflicted, sometimes grudges, mistrust and unforgiveness reign too long, not allowing for the chance for deeper connections.
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Are you still seeking peace in your journey as a Christian?
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In this book, readers will find biblical illustrations along with a section for answering personal reflection questions to help assist them in finally obtaining the emotional healing that Christ has already paid the price for.